we got back from an extended weekend at the lake last night.
we were talking about it a bit while we were there, but why is it that no one really warns you how hard the beggining stages of marriage are?
it would have been nice to at least have a head's up. i mean, we're not idiots, we knew it would be challenging, but everyone talks about it like it's the best years of their marriage, and i think they're smoking crack. they only love remembering it because they were younger and better looking then, i'm guessing.
i'm looking forward to a fwe years from now, when we're betting at communicating with each other, when we're better at intuiting what the other one is thinking, when we have a family and a house and more permanent feel to our life.
must make dinner, and we have nothing to eat. hee.
1. 'Aylana' posted on the Wed 6 Jul 2005, 9:10 pm
ReplyDeleteBetting at communicating with each other? Wow, I know couples that have been doing that for yeeeeeeeearrrs.
2. 'Dani Weiss' posted on the Wed 6 Jul 2005, 10:05 pm
ReplyDeletelol
every so often i think i should proofread
but the freudian slips are just too good
3. 'A visitor' posted on the Thu 7 Jul 2005, 12:05 pm
ReplyDeleteDidn't we all say at the sheva brachot how much work marriage is? And you thought we were just kidding? P.S. With a home and kids it doesn't get any easier--- just the opposite (but the grass is always greener ...)
4. 'A visitor' posted on the Fri 8 Jul 2005, 12:33 am
ReplyDeleteYou might have mentioned it, but we didn't believe you. I think it was because you were all somewhat tipsy. Now we know why...
5. 'A visitor' posted on the Sun 10 Jul 2005, 10:14 pm
ReplyDeleteMarriage requires work-even after 20 years. The myths of vorts and sheva brachas-which my wife and I didn't -have are really false myths. Life is temporary-make the best of the here and now.
6. 'Dani Weiss' posted on the Mon 11 Jul 2005, 9:23 am
ReplyDeletei didn't mean to imply that you can just coast through. just that the communication gets more fine tuned, so the big huge issues of the first few years go away (and i'm sure are replaced by other stresses). i was just totally unprepared for the petty fights and immense capability for seriously hurting my partner's feelings.
huge adjustment.