Here's a theoretical situation to ponder:
Say there's a married couple. The wife (who will now be called Wilma) has a very close cousin who gets engaged. Cousin will hereby be called Claudia. Claudia's engagement ocurred in early 2005. A date was set for the summer of 2006, and the whole extended family rejoiced (some may even say there were pregnancies planned around the date).
Fast forward about a year. The husband, Harold, has a sister (Sarina) who gets engaged. She schedules her engagement party for the day that Wilma's brother, Benedict, takes his girlfriend, Gail, to meet the family. Wilma is saddened, but goes to the engagement party and misses out on the family affair.
Sarina and her fiance (Fontleroy) begin to talk about wedding dates. Wilma and Harold let them know that there is one Sunday for which they are absolutely *not* available. Harold's mother thanks them for letting her know.
A week later, Harold calls his mother, and learns that Sarina and Fontleroy have actually set their wedding day for the very day that they were already booked. Harold expresses his dismay to his mother, and Wilma may have gotten somewhat upset.
So, the question is, what does Wilma do? Does she go to her cousin's wedding? Does she go to Sarina's wedding?
Should this be in any way influenced by how the families individually react the situation?
Wilma's options seem to be the following:
- go to Sarina's wedding and miss her cousin's wedding (which has been scheduled for a year)
- go to Claudia's wedding and risk the wrath of Harold's family (which has already been expressed in very definite form by some members of the family)
- try to attend both on the same day - this will entail being at Sarina's wedding for photos and the ceremony, then being driven for 3 hours to Claudia's wedding
Does any of this change if Wilma will be 8 months pregnant at the time and travel will be difficult for her?
1. 'A visitor' posted on the Fri 24 Mar 2006, 4:13 pm
ReplyDeleteit sounds like wilma will be really sad to miss the cousin's wedding but in no way can miss any part of sarina's - do not advise attempting both when 8 months pregnant - so sad, sorry :-( have a great Shabbos!
2. 'A visitor' posted on the Sun 26 Mar 2006, 5:51 pm
ReplyDeletewilma better stay at home-send phone regards and presents- wilma's health (and baby!) is more important than any wedding. ppl will be happier for baby than wedding. at least i think so.i know i'd rather have someone tell me they can't come due to pregs. than being a bum and wilma doesn't sound like a bum- rather the opposite for even contemplating any of this. wilma stay home!