i'm so excited, i'm so thrilled! so why am i sniping at everyone? why do i feel nauseous when i get an IM that starts with "so, did you find a dress?" or"where are you going for your honeymoon?"
there is almost nothing i dread so much as the next few months. if i could, i'd skip my wedding, and show up at the end to thank people for coming, then go home married.
yes, avraham saw my dress. and no, we will not have bad luck because of it. <scowl> i'm jewish, last i checked, and that's just bunk. not only did he see the dress, he came with me to pick it out. why? because i'm marrying him. and i want to look beautiful for him at our wedding. it's that simple. so i picked a bunch, and he told me which he liked best, and luckily enough my favorite dress was in that bunch, and i bought it.
i dont know when it's getting built up, or how the final product will look. i also don't care.
i don't where we're going on our honeymoon, or if we'll even have one. ever. i also don't care.
i don't know where we're going to live. we want to be in the heights. when we find a place, i'll be sure to let you know.
no, no, i don't have the ring yet. yes, i'll get it eventually. i don't know how big it is or what kind of a setting it is. i didn't get a diamond because i don't like them. any other questions?
before you ask them, read this, and think: i do not want to talk about my wedding. i'll be more than happy to discuss my marriage. if you insist on asking me silly detailed questions about my wedding, i reserve all rights to either kick you repeatedly or to cross you off the invite list (which, trust me, would help me a lot right now).
signing off for now, feeling v crabby...
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ReplyDeleteTuesday, 10 February 2004 9:21 pm
wow, what a healthy blog. Not talking about the wedding but about the marriage! You should be setting an example for your generation. Did you know that the divorce rate at Stern College is 50% and has been for almost 15 years? I think that this is because girls are focusing too much on the wedding and not on life, marriage and what it means. I have high hopes for you.
Cheryl
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ReplyDeleteTuesday, 10 February 2004 11:02 pm
do what i did ignore the wedding details let your parents plan it they'll be happier and so will you mazel tov
friend
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ReplyDeleteWednesday, 11 February 2004 10:12 am
I don't know you but this entry is a hoot!
P4S
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ReplyDeleteWednesday, 11 February 2004 3:57 pm
couldn't have said it better myself. people think its fun to live vicariously through you. or they want to know what you're doing so they can not do it or do it better. and then there are the poor few who are genuinly trying to tell you that you can feel free to vent to them - but by the time you realize that you've already chewed theyre head off and spit it half way across the room - too bad for them i guess
orly
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ReplyDeleteWednesday, 11 February 2004 11:27 pm
Dani... would love to talk to you about marriage sometime, but don't know so much about weddings. (thats where we get the ring, right) Spiritually binding yourself to one other person, saying "this is enough for me" is the resolution of the seeming contradiction between restricting yourself to one other person, and (because of this restriction) being able to have truly the deepest connection to that person. Just like eating kosher, or supporting Israel, it's about restricting choice. That's what I've been thinking about in brief- send me a line.
Shaynale