looking back

i would have run away sooner from pictures to the Kabalat Panim, because that's where i wanted to be.  one more or less picture of me and some people won't make a difference to me in 50 years - having given a Bracha to someone at my wedding or not will.

i would have made sure that the people taking pictures knew what to take pictures of, because they hadn't done a Jewish wedding before.  specifically, pictures of the tana'im, Kesuva, and dancing on the women's side would be cool.

i would have insisted that my bridemaids where green because i hate the color they walked in (sorry, sar).  it was a dream of mine since i was in high school, and other than photoshopping the fianl effect, i can't undo it now.

basically, the things i really cared about before aren't exactly the things i cared about after.  i didn't want my parents carrying candles, but they did, and aside from almost lighting me one fire, you can barely see it in the pictures.  so long as i never have to see those ugly things again, i think i can let it go.  i didn't want a video, but now there is one, and i don't have to ever watch it if i don't want to.

so - figure out what you'll care about.  remmeber that you're paying for it.  feel free to take a stand about some stuff.

and happy one month anniversary, honey.  : )